Are you there? Do you watch me when I cry? And if it’s in your power

Thank you Frederico for sending your paragraph to my blog. Great paragraph. Keep up the good work!

Your essay is interesting to read. Good job Phuong!

But this isn’t a fantasy world; it’s just pretending to be. As Jason kisses Peter at the end of the song, Matt is there and he sees it. The real world has poisoned the dream, though they don’t know it yet.

Hold that thought for just a moment.

Of dreams disguised as swirling light.

This is a very lovely article. I mean, I’m still going to compliment kids (girls or boys) on their cuteness and their beautiful, or cool or practical clothes. But I am totally down with talking about their interests and deeper things. I think we can do one without necessarily excluding the other. Complimenting a boy/girl on their lovely/cool/unique outfit/hair etc is okay, I think. Just keep it appropriate. There’s a reason we all look and dress differently. It keeps things interesting. We admire beauty in nature. We’re a part of nature. We should be able to see and admire the beauty in and out of everybody and view appearance in a healthy and positive way. I guess that’s harder to do than just ignoring appearance completely, but I think that’s just being in denial.

That’s why I force myself to talk to little girls as follows.

Hi. I loved your article and your desire to praise little girls in a thoughtful and responsible way. I have written a response to it here,
because although I agree – i also think that if we do not give them a healthy and stable understanding of their beauty – that it is a sad thing for them.
I loved the article, i really did, I just wouldnt throw the baby out with the bathwater.

“Maya,” I said, crouching down at her level, looking into her eyes, “very nice to meet you.”

“YES,” she said. “And I can read them all by myself now!”

This is such a great article! It’s disturbing how much our culture is obsessed with body image, and it starts as early as birth. I never really thought about how I interact with my little cousins, but this has opened up my eyes, and I see that I’m contributing to the problem.

“What’s your favorite book?” I asked.

of course it really adds to someone’s self-esteem to write an inspiring article and have someone point out an error in their first sentence. correct spelling is, also, something that , though important, could wait for comment. starting with criticism is not affirming.

“I’ll go get it! Can I read it to you?”

All hail SMART! I remember being so fixated on appearance in high-school that it was painful. Here are the points that I should have realized then:
1) Pretty wasn’t going to get me into university. I am now working on my Ph.D. in biology.
2) Pretty wasn’t going to get me the grades I needed to maintain.
3) Pretty wasn’t going to get me a job in my field of interest.
4) Pretty wasn’t going to get my papers published. No scientist sends mug shots in with their research write-ups.
5) Pretty did not lead to me meeting my husband. He thinks the whole package is beautiful, but he always says that he has never been interested in someone who lacks intelligence.
For as smart as I was in high-school, appearance was the one place where I woefully idiotic. I was too obsessed with thinking that I wasn’t pretty enough. I also had a constant stream of people telling me how pretty my younger sister was. It took me awhile to mentally overcome that conditioning.
Be smart. Beauty – true beauty – comes from passion in your life and interests. Intelligence will give you that passion.

We’re doing time in confession.

Also, I’m not telling you what you should or should not write, but nitpicking to the point where you make a deal out of a single spelling mistake in an entire article is kind of unnecessary and can be interpreted as a tad disrespectful. I understand that you probably mean well, just be aware that doing so usually does more harm than good. Had the author actually made a little spelling mistake it would hardly have made the message any less professional or clear.

It’s the sacrament of oppression.

I like some advice I read above which is that the best thing is to actually treat the little girl like a regular human being and try to forget (unless it becomes necessary) that they are a little girl or a little boy. I have had this habit my whole life of just treating the little ones with the same respect and care I would anyone else and as a result, most kids seem to love me to death.